Get ready to break free from the patterns that do not serve the highest expression of YOU.

Banish Your Blind Spots is the system and approach that I personally use to break from patterns that do not serve the highest expression of me.

These patterns - such as perfectionism, doubting our intuition, and people-pleasing - are coping mechanisms our younger selves constructed to feel safe. 

However, it's not true safety. These patterns have a way of creating insidious blind spots across all areas of our life that cause us to make choices which cut us off from what we desire and what we deserve again and again.

"A dis-regulated nervous system will always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven."

For me, my dominant pattern was "putting myself last", (which I now know to be high-functioning codependency). I constantly felt like I had to make sure everyone else was okay before I could be okay. However, I never got "my turn" to be okay because there was always someone I cared about who was not okay. There was always a fire to put out. A problem to solve. And it didn't matter that these fires and problems weren't even mine. I always defaulted to feeling like it was my job to do something about it. Their pain became my pain. It was hell, but it was a familiar hell.

The negative effects of this pattern seeped into every area of my life - my health, business, home, finances... It put up a wall between myself and what I was capable of and it kept me accepting less than I deserved.

Everything changed when someone helped me finally SEE what I was doing to myself, and I realized that this pattern has nothing to do with the truth of who I am. It had nothing to do with how my world could actually work and how my life could actually feel. It may have helped protect me when I was helpless, but I had to realize I was no longer helpless. I no longer needed the pattern. It was time to go in the opposite direction and let my inner child know that I'm all grown up now and I've got this.

This notion was terrifying at first. When I began prioritizing myself, an ingrained part of my psyche screamed in protest and fear. But in confronting these fears, I found they were full of lies. Rigorous self-awareness became my daily practice, constantly asking, “How can I put myself first right now?”

Sometimes it felt like everything was falling apart and it felt like part of me was dying. But I kept going because I knew that it wasn't ME that was dying. It was the pattern. And anything that fell apart needed to fall apart because the only thing that had been keeping it together was based on a version of me that wasn't even ME.

This single shift led to remarkable results. I made more progress in just a couple years than I had in the last decade of being in business. I ceased client work, created programs that aligned with my true self, found my voice, quit social media, made a million dollars in revenue, and moved to Portugal — all without forcing myself into the traditional entrepreneurial grind. It felt like I had tapped into magic.

But more importantly, I stopped taking responsibility for other people's problems and for the first time in my life, I learned what it meant to truly take 100% responsibility for my own. And I realized I had a lot of work to do still. But it is work that I am excited to do. 

Let me tell you, there is no better feeling than the feeling of taking full ownership over what is in your power and responsibility to control. To totally trust that you are finally taking care of your own life - 100%. 

Not 80%. 

Not 99%. 

100%. 

To feel like you're not abandoning yourself any more. You're not neglecting yourself any more.

And you're not expecting anyone or anything to come to your rescue. YOU are the rescue that your inner 7 year old has been waiting for. Not your pattern. Not your business. You.

Banish Your Blind Spots is about you finally giving yourself the self-awareness, space, and system to honor your right to love and respect every part of your experience of life - down to the smallest detail in every single area.  

The self-neglect ends here. 

It's your turn now.

Let's banish our blind spots together.